Be Nice to Your Ego

I have noticed a pattern in the New Age community that sometimes tends to bash, condemn, vilify, or somehow attempt to repress or even eradicate the ego. The ego has become the Devil of the New Age. This pattern worries me, and I think it is the result of a misunderstanding about what the ego is and what it does.

Lets get the definition of ego out of the way so that there would be minimum confusion/misinterpertation. According to dictionary.com, the ego is "the 'I' or self of any person; a person as thinking, feeling, and willing, and distinguishing itself from the selves of others and from objects of its thought." I define the ego as that part of ourselves that allows us to maintain some degree of individuality and distinctiveness: the sense of separation from the unified whole. Had we no ego, there would be nothing to stop our instant dissolution into the neutral raw energy that lies at the foundational layer of existence.

The ego is an invaluable tool! By helping us to maintain separation and individual identities, it allows for 2 or more distinct beings to exist, and therefore allows for inter-action, which in turn fuels lessons and evolution/learning/experience. The only time one could consider "getting rid of" it, is when one is prepared to give up all claims on individuality, on direct subjective experience, on inter-action... and become the great cosmic observer which is the mass consciousness (ie: just existing as the Whole, and experiencing all things collectively instead of actually taking an *active* part... badly worded, but something like that).

Now about this "getting rid of" business. I believe that the energy in the multiverse is infinite, and can neither be created or destroyed, only transformed. Therefore, it is not possible to "get rid of" anything. Indeed, it would be rather counter-productive to do so. All parts/aspects of you are invaluable treasures! If you destroy any one of them you only destroy and diminish yourself. However, you ego can transform into various guises as they are suitable for each reality and density you find yourself in.

In the process of Ascension/Evolution, we all talk about the need to heal and transform the mental, the emotional, the spiritual, and sometimes even the physical bodies - we even talk about the addition of a brand new light body! - yet few talk about the need to heal and transform the ego body. What this inevitably results in is the ego feeling left out.

Just like every other body, the ego body feels that it is valuable and useful to our survival and our growth. Its purpose is indeed paramount, for it is its job to maintain our individual awareness that would allow us to play out the lessons that we need for personal growth. In this 3D world, the ego's default job is to protect our selves from threats - such as threats to our self-esteem, threats to our bodies, matters of survival and self-image. That is its purpose here, and it does a great job of pulling it off.

Like all our other bodies, over the course of life the ego might appear healthy or unhealthy, balanced or imbalanced. It is my opinion that both the inflated ego (that which views itself as better than others) and the deflated ego (that which views itself as worse than others) are states of imbalance, and that balance can be achieved by fostering an ego which is secure in itself and views itself as no better or worse than anybody else - equal in value and potential. This balanced state IS possible!! But the propaganda we are fed against the ego makes it difficult to achieve.

We pamper and gently work with our other bodies, yet we neglect the ego (thereby neglecting our Selves), we chastise the ego (where there "should" be non-judgementalism), we repress the ego (which only makes its desperate cries for attention more tempestuous when they come), and sometimes, we even try to kill off the ego. Put yourself in the ego's shoes: a frightened child, abandoned, battered, and threatened with death if it tries to express itself. And for what? Just for doing its job! It does not understand where our hatred towards it comes from, it was never given a reason for its abuse and never given a say in the matter. Yet all it wants to do - all it was designed to do - is to help you, and yet it was never given the chance. What do you think the ego will do when put into such a position? It will fight for its right to exist through any outlet it can find, even start attacking other bodies if it needs to (attack physical body by making you get into fights, attack emotional body by making you get into heated arguments, and so on).

But it doesn’t have to be this way. There is a gentler and far more effective way of healing the ego without making your entire being a war zone. Simply give your ego as much healing and attention as you would to prepare other bodies for the dimensional shift. Just like the rest of your bodies, the ego has a new, transformed form in the higher realities. SEND LOVE TO YOUR EGO, make it feel appreciated, thank it for the wonderful job it’s doing of maintaining your sense of self. Reassure it that it will not disappear or cease to exist after the shift, but in fact will be more conscious than ever before! Remind it that you need it in the next dimension, that it has nothing to fear from the transition, and that all your bodies need to work together as a whole being to make that goal your reality. I assure you that your ego will be more than happy to accommodate you and be as enthusiastic about the coming changes as you are, as long as it’s in the know as to what’s going on, and as long as it is assured that it has nothing to fear and that it is not threatened in any way.

Your ego is an invaluable part of you that I believe will stay with you throughout your evolution as an individual. It is the seat of Self and Self-empowerment. It can be transformed, it can be harmonized, but it can never be destroyed. It can be a powerful ally when healthy and functioning, but a terrible hindrance when imbalanced and neglected. A being divided against its Self can not stand. You decide.